You have been in a new relationship but something bothering you a lot. Maybe it’s the Ex factor that still affecting your relationship. A breakup does not mean the total end of love with the Ex you once shared. But, love is still there that is covered under the burden of everything that breaks the relationships. Love does not end with the decision to leave your partner and move on.
No doubt, it is always possible that the harsh comments are unforgivable that are enough to end the love your partner once had with someone. For example, he may still love his Ex so much even if she cheated on him. Every couple is different, so every situation is different too.
So, how to know exactly if your boyfriend still loves his Ex or not? Here we have compiled 10 signs that will help you to know if he still loves his ex or whether he is ready or not to have a new relationship with you.
1. He gets nostalgic
If he talks about all the positives of his past relationship instead of the negatives, then there are chances that he still loves his ex. If he seems to not hold any resentment and bitterness about his past relationship, then it’s a sign that he is not pretty much ready to have a new relationship with you. It’s a sign that will let you know that he has a space in his heart for his ex and still loves her.
2. He is happy when he sees his Ex
You don’t exactly sparkle when you have bitter feelings towards your ex at the time of running into them. It’s the best indication that he is still harboring his ex if he’s warm, kind, flirty, friendly, or feels really happy to see her. Or maybe you will feel that he is open to try again.
During the no- contact time with an ex, don’t try to run behind your boyfriend as everything will still be too fresh. You may be a poor judge at that time because you can’t think clearly as your emotions will be a major hindrance. But, if you feel that he is really too happy to see his ex if they meet him by chance then it’s a good chance that he still loves his ex.
3. He feel strong emotional reactions when it comes to his Ex
Hate is not the opposite of love, instead it is indifference. If it’s clear that he does not care for you and he barely registers the interactions with you, then he’s indifferent and you should realize that there is no love from his side.
But, there is a chance that he had strong feelings of love for his ex if his response to his ex is intense. You can feel the strong feelings in different ways. Does he show extreme happiness when he ever meet his ex by chance? Does he show extreme sadness and seems that he misses his ex? Review all these questions to come to the point of whether he still loves his ex or not.
4. He tries to get his ex attention
He may try to get her attention by posting his pictures on social media. And he is hoping that she will reach out to him by noticing these pictures.
Furthermore, he may give her a hint of his feelings by positing sad or happy quotes. Basically, he is doing all these things to get her attention.
5. He drunk dials his ex
Alcohol is a way to bring out the emotions but your boyfriend probably still has feelings for his ex if he drunk dials her. It’s a strong sign that he has strong buried feelings for her if he’s regularly reaching out to her when drunk.
When your boyfriend feels emotional, his mind may turn to her past relationship if he’s drunk dialing you. You will get the idea from it that he still has strong feelings for his ex and is not ready for a new relationship.
6. He hasn’t removed her pictures from social media
If you have noticed that your boyfriend had not removed the pictures of her ex from social media, then there is a probability that he is still in love with those pictures. He will surely try to stalk her by making lame excuses when you confront him, Such as, he will make an excuse that it will look rude, it's a good picture or she’s just a friend now.
And, you may have noticed him looking at those pictures somehow that would be a clear indication that he is still missing her and could not have a good life without her.
7. He talks about his ex during intimate moments
While indulging in physical intimacy, he still remembers the moments of his ex which is the most evident sign that he still loves her instead of you.
During the climax, imagine that your boyfriend is calling her ex’s name instead of yours. It could be a worse situation. You can forgive him for comparing other stuff, but not this one. Can you forgive your boyfriend of thinking his ex while having sex with you?
8. He reaches out to his ex, a lot
Your boyfriend may find excuses to keep in contact with his ex. Maybe, he sends her random memes or articles, songs to listen to or download. It means that your boyfriend wants to share his thoughts or experiences with his ex as before they used to do.
Observe that when he gets good or bad news, does he want to tell you? Or he get back to her ex to tell her everything. You will get the answer that your ex is still in love with his ex or not.
9. Your boyfriend actively follows her ex on social media
You may have noticed that your boyfriend continuously tracks his ex on social media. He continues to like and comment on her posts. Observe that he watches out for all her ex stories on Instagram or Snapchat? If yes, then he wants to be in contact with her ex again and he still loves her. Ultimately, you can make a decision that your boyfriend is not ready for a new relationship with you.
10. You don’t feel like you are in a new relationship
Being in a fresh and new relationship, your boyfriend doesn’t feel like that excitement and rush. The hangout period of your relationship with your boyfriend ends up in a very short time. Your boyfriend behaves like old bickering couples as he still misses his ex. Definitely, it’s a sign that he still loves his ex if you barely cannot see any love for that new relationship.
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