Have you heard of the 5-minute rule, the one that says you should aim to organise your day into 5 minute slots and determine before every activity how many slots it will consume? Did you stick to it?
What about the 4-hour rule, the one that says you should aim to get all your work, chores, study and television out of the way and leave 4 hours a day just to think about your day, your tomorrow and life in general? What about the planner rule, the one that says you should spend your Sunday evening planning your next week and sticking to that plan throughout the week?
Most people haven’t heard of them, and with good reason. They are temporary fixes that have little long-term impact because they tend to be unrealistic. Instead of looking at the reasons why a person is spending five hours on youtube, they simple say do not do it, spend that time thinking instead. This doesn’t make them bad. They are useful as temporary measures that many people have used to great success over months or even years and several business men and women are known for using some of these techniques.
Just like our article on body image, time management issues can often be attributed to psychological factors like confidence, anxiety and procrastination, all of which usually stem from complex feelings. How much benefit does 2 hours of watching soap operas give you? How much benefit does that extra 2 hours in bed give you? Instead of forming new and positive habits, it is often easier to stick with old behaviour patterns. But then time just seems to go by faster and faster. Does that sound like your situation? Where each day is somehow shorter than the previous one? That’s when you know that self-help fixes have met their match and professional help might be needed. Why though?
Here’s an example. A 30-year-old businesswoman has 125 unread emails in her inbox. She needs to sort out the bills as well but doesn’t have time to do both so she feels overwhelmed. This is the classic case of all-or-nothing thinking whereby a person feels they need to get it all done in one go and because they can’t do it all, they do neither. Instead of doing 10 emails a day (in addition to prioritising and reducing the usual stream of emails) and having them all caught up within 2 weeks, the emails sit there like a pain in the back instead of going away. Same for the bills. One of our qualified therapists can unlock the anxieties like fear of failure, fear of success (yes that exists!), fear of judgement and link these with practical and supportive strategies that will help you deal with the real reason that your time seems to go so fast. Give us a call today to see how!